Difficult time

My son in law had his heart broken yesterday. His daughter went to visit her mom in San Antonio for Spring Break. She called on Friday stating she wanted to spend one more day with her mom because they were going to see a friend of her mother’s who now lives in this general area. That started K and me to think. She must want to move back to her mom’s

Yesterday morning, she called and said she wanted to "talk" to S. We all had a really strong feeling then. K called me and asked if I could keep the other two kids if things became heated. That can happen regularly between M’s mom and S. Apparently, M stated her case with as much sense as she is capable of - and that’s not much - because the whole thing took place without any fighting. She packed up her clothes and is gone.

S feels she doesn’t love him. This is probably true. She only came here because she made up things that were supposed to be happening at her mom’s house because she didn’t want to move to California with her mother and step father two years ago. So S and K went to court to get custody of her. It wasn’t pretty. And it wasn’t cheap. They thought they were protecting her from abuse.

When M went to her mother’s last Spring Break, she pulled the same stunt, but K told her she had to stay through the school year. Custody was still joint, and that was the deal they made with M. When M went to her mother’s for the summer visit, she was miserable, so more money went to the attorney to get full custody. We have suddenly time warped back a year.

Part of this may be due to the fact M has chosen girls who could have been cast in "Me*n Girls." They are a bunch of snippy little teenagers. M loves drama and wants to be in the middle of it, so she causes it. She could not understand why when she spoke poorly of one of the group to another girl in the group, it would come back to M. They finally left such terrible messages on her cell phone, and I think this was a good part of the reason M chose to go back to San Antonio.

The poor girl has been through some counseling with a psychologist, but she really needs a psychiatrist. I have read the research about teen brains not being complete. I know there is much growth that must happen, but in the five years I have been retired from teaching that age group, they couldn’t have change that much. M needs serious help.

At least this time even her mother has said this is it. There will be no changing again. There are six siblings involved. M’s 4 siblings with her mother are old enough for her bouncing back and forth to bother them. My grandchildren really don’t feel it as strongly.

I wish her the best.